Offering to help your mate
Often people think that they can handle the situation, or that they should be able to. They might also worry that others will think less of them. You can be a mate and let them know how common their problem actually is, and that you are here to help.
What to say
What can you say to your mate in this situation? Here are some ideas:
- You know I've noticed that you've seemed really down/worried/stressed for a long time now. Is there anyone you've been able to talk to about it?
- I hate to see you struggling on your own. There are people that can help (make a few suggestions)
- You would get expert help if (your computer crashed/your house needed rewiring etc) and you didn't know how to do it yourself. This is the same thing.
- Lots of people go through this sort of thing. Getting help will make it easier.
- I know I would like some help if were going through something like this
- When I/someone I know went through something like this I/they got help from&
- Have you thought about visiting your doctor?
Reach out
Remember, your first goal is to help keep your mate safe from self-harm or suicide until you can get more help. You don't have to solve all their problems. Just having someone to talk to is a big first step, and can make people feel less alone.
You could support your mate to get help from:
- family
- friends
- a counsellor
- doctors
- mental health professional
- suggest crisis telephone numbers like Lifeline 13 11 14 (24 hrs)
Most people who consider suicide would rather live and find a way to get help to deal with their problems. You can help a mate make the first steps toward safety. If you need to talk to someone call Lifeline 24 hours a day on 13 11 14.
If life is in danger call 000 or go to your local hospital emergency department.
We acknowledge content from Read the Signs, a joint initiative between Lifeline and MTAA Superannuation Fund.
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Just having someone to talk to is a big first step, and can make people feel less alone.