Financial stress
Understanding financial stress
If you've ever felt worried, scared, or helpless about your financial situation, then it’s likely you’ve experienced financial stress. But you’re not alone. Studies show most people will face financial stress at least once in their lives.
Financial stress can show up in many different ways, but in general, it relates to any stress you feel as a result of your financial situation. Some examples include:
- Finding it hard to keep up with living expenses, such as rental or mortgage payments, utility bills, and groceries
- Missing loan and credit card repayments
- Having to cover unexpected expenses.
Financial stress and mental health are closely related and can directly affect one another. Financial stress can have a negative impact on your mental health, and at the same time, poor mental health can make financial stress worse. So, it's important to find ways to manage stress and work on improving your financial situation.
How common is financial stress?
Financial stress is more common than you might think.
Recent inflation and interest rate rises are putting increasing stress on Australians' hip pockets. In fact, 1 in 3 Australians are finding it hard to get by on their current income.
If you’re dealing with financial stress, you’re not alone.
How are financial stress and mental health related?
If we are experiencing financial stress in our lives, it’s understandable that we will likely not be our happiest, most positive and productive selves. And while sometimes these things may resolve as quickly as they appear, many people who have experienced financial stress also reported experiencing mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety, and substance misuse.
Not only can financial stress lead to mental health conditions, but it can also make existing ones worse. At the same time, having a mental health condition can make financial stress worse because it can affect your ability to manage stress effectively.
Who does financial stress affect?
Financial stress can affect anyone at anytime. Our socio-economic background, education level and even our income level do not make us immune to financial stress.
Financial stress isn’t always related to how much money we have. Sometimes people with more money can feel distressed due to making bigger financial commitments or at the prospect of losing things they’ve always had.
But some groups of people might be more vulnerable to financial stress than others:
If you earn a low or unstable income, you might find it hard to cover your basic living costs from month to month. Financial uncertainty can also mean other events that have a financial impact (like getting sick, accidents, moving house, deaths in the family, and many others) are more likely to affect your ability to put food on the table and have a roof over your head, which can make you worried and stressed.
If you’re a student, you might experience financial stress, especially if you don’t have financial support and you’re not working. Having to pay back a student loan can also contribute to financial stress.
If you’re an older adult and you haven’t saved up for your retirement, you might be more likely to experience financial stress. In a world of rising costs, you might also feel financially stressed even if you have saved and you once thought you’d have enough money for your retirement.
You might become financially stressed if you’re the only parent contributing financially towards your child/children. The ever-rising living cost and lack of family-friendly jobs and affordable childcare options can make it hard to earn enough money to provide food and other basic needs for your child/children, which can make you more vulnerable to financial stress.
If you have no money coming in, this can cause serious financial stress. Worrying about whether you’ll have enough money to pay the bills, food, and other living expenses can negatively affect your mental health, while job hunting can cause additional pressure. If you’re unfit for work, it can be even harder, but there are government support options you might be able to access.
Owning your own business typically comes with more financial risk than working as an employee for a company. There are times when you might have to deal with slow sales, economic uncertainty, and competition from similar businesses. Starting a business often involves taking on debt, which can be another major source of financial stress, as well as the social and emotional pressure that comes from knowing that the failure of your business would affect your employees too.
Statistics show that, on average, women still earn less than men. They also tend to have less money saved for retirement due to taking career breaks to either raise children or care for their parents or other relatives. So if you’re a woman, you might be more prone to experiencing financial stress.
When is financial stress a problem?
Financial stress can become a problem if you notice that it’s having a negative effect on your mood, your thoughts are consumed by your current financial situation, or it affects how you show up on a daily basis - you just don’t feel yourself.
Here are some signs of financial stress that you should look out for:
- You feel overwhelmed by your financial situation and worry about it constantly
- You have been feeling financially stressed for a long time, and your financial situation is not improving
- Your financial situation has led to feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness
- You've started using unhealthy coping strategies, such as drinking or taking substances to cope with financial stress
- You’re avoiding your financial problems, for example, never checking your bank balance.
If this sounds like you, you can try out some of the short-term and long-term strategies we've put together to help you cope with financial stress. Our tips are practical, easy to apply, and can help you on your journey towards financial stability.
If in crisis, you can contact Lifeline and access our confidential one-on-one support via phone, text, or online chat, 24/7.
What does financial stress feel like and how can it affect me?
If you are experiencing financial stress, you may notice yourself consumed by thoughts about your financial situation. You may find it harder than usual to be happy and optimistic, and you may even experience some physical symptoms.
It’s normal to be experiencing these kinds of feelings, and while they may feel distressing right now, it’s important to remember they won’t last forever.
Feelings and thoughts
Having money problems can make you feel:
- Ashamed, like there’s something wrong with you for getting into financial trouble
- Anxious and fearful about the future
- Guilty about your spending habits and about not being able to support your dependents and pay your bills
- Hopeless
- Feeling helpless, like there’s nothing you can do to change your situation and that it’s beyond your control
- Frustrated
- Overwhelmed
- Depressed.
You might think about your past financial decisions and mistakes you regret as we often tend to look back on decisions and beat ourselves up for not doing things differently. But, if we dwell on these, it can lead to negative beliefs about ourselves.
While reflection is important to make better decisions in the future, it can be unhealthy to criticise or judge yourself for past decisions. Even if you do regret some of the choices you’ve made in the past, they don’t define you as a person. Show the same compassion to yourself as you would to a loved one.
Try reframing your thinking, and instead of saying, ‘I messed up, I am a failure, say, ‘I now know what doesn’t work for me, and I can use this information when planning my future.’
Physical effects
You might experience physical responses to financial stress,such as:
- Headaches
- Muscle tension and pain
- Digestive problems like stomach aches and irritable bowel syndrome
- High blood pressure and other cardiovascular problems
- Skin problems like acne and rashes
- Weight fluctuations or changes in appetite.
When I lost my job and couldn't pay bills, I started having strong headaches due to the stress I was experiencing.
How else could financial stress affect me?
Financial stress can also lead to:
- Lowered self-esteem, especially if having money is something that you identified with very strongly
- Relationship problems - for example, if you and your partner disagree about how to handle money and how to resolve your financial problems
- Decreased productivity at work — if financial stress makes it hard for you to focus and perform well at your job
- Decreased quality of life — if financial stress prevents you from engaging in activities you enjoy
- Withdrawal from friends and family, especially if you feel embarrassed about your financial situation or like a burden
- Increased risk of using unhealthy coping strategies, like using alcohol or drugs, overeating, and gambling
- Debt and financial instability if you’re not able to get on top of your finances.
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Causes of financial stress
Feeling stressed about money isn’t always about how much you have. Even people who aren’t struggling financially can feel pressure around their finances.
Your situation (like job security, savings, or support networks) can shape how much certain life events affect you. For someone already doing it tough, an unexpected cost can hit much harder.
Sometimes financial stress comes from things outside your control. Other times, it might be linked to past decisions, limited financial knowledge, or someone else having control over your money.
Here are some common reasons people might feel overwhelmed about money:
- Losing your job or regular income
- Taking a pay cut or reduced hours
- Being unable to work due to illness, injury, or caring responsibilities.
- Medical bills
- Urgent home or vehicle repairs
- Separation or divorce
- Funeral costs
- Falling victim to scams or fraud.
- Owing money to friends, family, or lenders
- Struggling to keep up with bills or loan repayments
- Being affected by failed investments, gambling, or risky financial choices
- Feeling responsible for supporting family or community.
- Living beyond your means or having limited savings
- Not having superannuation or a retirement plan
- Low confidence with managing money or financial decisions
- Experiencing financial abuse or control in a relationship.
- Economic downturns or rising living costs
- Mental health challenges that make it harder to manage money or seek help.
Recognising the causes of financial stress is an important step toward regaining control and finding relief. It's important to remember that you're not alone in this journey.
Whether you're facing immediate financial difficulties or seeking to improve your financial wellbeing, there are resources and people ready to assist you.
- Visit our short-term help for financial stress page to learn practical strategies to manage immediate financial pressures.
- Visit our support services for financial stress page to connect with organisations that offer financial counselling and assistance.
Taking the first step to address financial stress can feel daunting, but reaching out for support is a sign of strength. Remember, help is just a call or click away.
Practical things you can do in the moment to feel better
Navigating financial difficulties can be an overwhelming experience that can leave you feeling hopeless and unsure of what the future holds. It's important to recognise that these feelings won’t last forever, and there are steps you can take to regain financial stability. The strategies outlined on this page are designed to help you manage your emotions, develop a plan of action, and take practical steps towards a brighter financial future. Remember, you are not alone, and there is always hope for a better tomorrow.
We’ve separated suggestions for how you can manage your feelings from a number of strategies to take back control of your finances directly.
Tips to help you manage stress
Stress can impact our energy levels and ability to do everyday tasks, so it’s important to find ways to manage our stress levels.
When feeling overwhelmed, doing a grounding technique like box breathing can be a helpful way to help you focus on the here and now.
Keep reading for more ideas.
It's easy to be self-critical and judge ourselves for the situation we're in, but sometimes things happen outside of our control, we have bad luck or unexpected things pop up. If this is the case for you, try not to add self-criticism and judgement to the stress you're already feeling. Try reframing your negative thinking and focusing on the positive. So, instead of thinking about yourself as a failure when you make a mistake, you can focus on what you’ve learned from it and how you can use it to do better in the future.
If you're feeling stressed, it's important to continue making time for things you enjoy.
Calling friends, spending time with family or doing something you like are really important to our wellbeing and can give you the energy and perspective you might need to make good financial decisions too.
Self-care activities don’t have to be costly either. There are many free or low-cost activities out there, such as hiking, going for a walk in the park or spending time with your friends.
It can be hard to talk about your financial problems with your loved ones. You might feel embarrassed about your situation, or you might worry that you’ll make your loved ones upset.
However, sharing your problems with those closest to you can help you feel supported and less alone. Plus, research shows that social support can help you cope better with stress.
So, if you feel up to it, try talking to someone you trust about how you’re feeling and what you’re going through. If unsure how to start a conversation, we’ve created a guide to help you. If you feel too uncomfortable talking to someone you know, you can contact Lifeline and speak to a counsellor anonymously.
Financial stress can feel all-consuming and take every minute of your day. One evidence-based approach to feeling better is to limit your worry time about money to a specific time once a day. Having a designated worry time can help interrupt the repetitive thinking cycle. By learning to postpone your worries, you might find that they are less intrusive in your life.
Choose a time, place and amount of time to focus on your worries. Make sure you’re in a comfortable space, that it’s not close to your bedtime and that it doesn’t last too long. When a worry pops in your mind, jot it down somewhere so you can remember it for your worry time. Then, get on with your day!
Managing finances
It can seem hard to get back on track with your finances when you’re struggling with money and feeling worried about your financial situation. Here are some tips that can help you improve your financial wellbeing:
You can contact the Australian Taxation Office or your local bank and request to speak with financial counsellors free of charge. Financial counsellors work with people in financial crisis all the time and understand what you’re going through. They can give you advice about your financial situation.
If you haven’t already, creating a budget is a great initial step towards resolving your financial problems. It can help you reduce feelings of uncertainty, be in control of your finances and identify what changes you need to make to regain financial stability.
You can find lots of free budgeting templates online, but here are some steps to help get you started:
- First, figure out your monthly income after taxes. Include your salary and any additional sources of income, including government benefits.
- Make a list of your expenses. Include both fixed and variable expenses. Fixed expenses are expenses that stay the same each month, such as rent, loan repayments, and subscription services. Variable expenses are expenses that can change from month to month, for example, groceries, entertainment, and clothing. You can simply write a list of your expenses in the notebook or use budgeting tools or apps.
- Prioritise your expenses by deciding which are essential and which are not. Essential expenses include your basic living costs, like rent, utilities, and groceries. Non-essential expenses are things like eating out, subscription services, and expensive hobbies.
- Set spending and saving goals. If you’re in debt, only spend money on your essential expenses and save the rest for paying back the money you owe. Once you’ve caught up on repaying your outstanding debts, you can adjust your budget and include a limit for non-essential expenses.
Cutting down your expenses and living below your means is a smart way of protecting your financial stability.
Here are some tips for cutting down your expenses so that you can save more money:
- If you need to buy something new, check out whether there are any sales happening on that item
- If you’re going out to eat or for drinks, look at whether any bars and restaurants have specials
- Where possible, and if you’re not going too far, walk or use public transport rather than your own vehicle to save on fuel
- Cook at home instead of ordering in or eating out
- Shop at stores that offer membership programs so that you can access discounts
- Use apps and other tools to find good deals and discounts.
Pressure to pay off your debt can lead to heightened stress levels, and prolonged stress can negatively impact your health, so it’s important to pay off your debt as soon as you’re able to. If, after working out your budget, you find that your monthly income is insufficient to cover your debts, read more about some other options below.
Debt counsellors are financial professionals that can give you financial advice and support to pay and manage your debts more successfully. There are organisations that offer free financial and debt counselling, such as National Debt Hotline.
If you’re struggling to pay off your debt, you can contact the organisations you owe money to and try to negotiate new payment terms based on how much you can afford to pay them each month.
If you have a large amount of debt, you can consider debt consolidation. This is where you take out a loan at a reduced interest rate to cover all of your existing debt. So, instead of making multiple debt repayments each month at high-interest rates, you can make a single monthly repayment at a low-interest rate. There are both pros and cons to debt reconsolidation, so consider talking with a debt counsellor before making a decision about it.
If you have the capacity to put in a little extra time and effort, there are things you can do to increase your income from month to month so that you can pay off your debt quicker.
Here are a few ideas:
- Sell old items that you no longer need. Spend a weekend going through your belongings — there’s likely to be at least some things you don’t want or need anymore. You can then post and sell these items online, such as on Facebook Marketplace, or Ebay
- Look for part-time work. You might be able to find casual work in industries where there’s a high demand for workers and a low barrier to entry. For example, hospitality or retail. You can also look at getting jobs like pet-sitting or babysitting if you have some experience in these areas
- Complete paid surveys online. You might not make a lot of money, but filling in surveys online is one way to make a little extra cash if you have the time. Just remember to read the fine print when it comes to data protection and privacy, as some companies might sell your data to third parties
- If you have a car, you can join apps like Uber and work as a driver to earn extra money after your usual work hours or at weekends
- If you have a spare room in your home, you can rent it out on apps such as Airbnb.
When working towards obtaining financial security, slow and steady wins the race! It’s important to take small, achievable steps towards feeling better about your financial situation and put a plan in place. Fortunately, you don’t have to do this on your own — there are people and organisations that can help you for free.
The Australian government offers financial support for people who are struggling financially. Below are some support options that might be available to you if you meet certain criteria :
- Job seeker payment. You might be eligible to receive this benefit if you’re unemployed, working part-time, or if your work hours were recently reduced. You can also get it if you’re sick or injured and unable to work
- Youth allowance. There are different types of benefits available to people between the ages of 16 and 24 who are either studying full-time, or doing an apprenticeship.
- Crisis payment. If you’re experiencing serious financial problems as a result of a crisis — such as a natural disaster or domestic violence — then you may be eligible for this benefit.
- Emergency accommodation. If you’re at risk of becoming homeless or you’re experiencing another type of housing crisis, your state or territory will organise emergency accommodation for you. This could be at a motel, budget hotel, or caravan park.
- Superannuation. You might be entitled to getting some of your superannuation early if you’re experiencing severe financial hardship. However, the criteria for having it released early is very strict, and there are risks to having it released early. So make sure to speak to a debt counsellor first.
- Cost of living support. You might be eligible for help with living costs, such as housing, transport, and utility and medical bills. How much assistance you get and whether you’re eligible depends on which territory you live in.
- No interest loans. Good Shepherd Australia New Zealand offers loans to people on low incomes without interest or fees. These loans can be used to cover basic expenses. They also offer loans to victims of family and domestic violence. A maximum of 2000 dollars can be borrowed, and it has to be paid back within 24 months.
Looking after your wellbeing after being scammed
Being scammed can leave you feeling shocked, embarrassed, or even ashamed. It might shake your confidence, spark self-doubt, or make you question your own judgement. These reactions are completely valid.
Scammers are skilled at what they do and anyone can be targeted. It’s not your fault, and there are people who want to help.
As you take practical steps to report the scam and protect your information, it’s just as important to care for your mental and emotional wellbeing.
Here are some ways to support yourself:
- Talk it through: Speaking with someone you trust can help you feel less alone. You might also benefit from talking with a professional counsellor or psychologist, especially if you're feeling overwhelmed or anxious. Click here to learn more about talking to someone you trust.
- Explore ways to rebuild self-esteem: A scam can leave you questioning your worth. Visit our self-esteem article for practical ideas to help you reconnect with your strengths.
- Practise self-kindness: Try to notice how you speak to yourself. Would you blame a friend if this happened to them? Treat yourself with the same care.
- Keep up with self-care: Small daily actions like eating regularly, getting fresh air, or resting when needed can help ground you through stress. Click here to read our article on the importance of self-care for mental health and wellbeing.
- Reach out for support: If you're struggling to cope, support is available. You can connect with a Lifeline crisis supporter 24 hours a day, 7 days a week via 13 11 14, text, and chat.
For practical steps and more advice, visit Scamwatch’s guide on what to do if you’ve been scammed.
Long-term strategies that work
Financial stress can take a huge toll on your mental and emotional wellbeing if you’re not sure how to cope with it. Fortunately, there are effective strategies you can use to manage the stress you’re experiencing while working towards financial stability.
Tips to manage stress
Not only can stress impact our energy levels and ability to do everyday tasks, but long-term stress can also impact our physical health and lead to other mental health issues, like anxiety and depression. Here are some ways that can help you manage your stress long-term:
Self-care is any action you take to preserve your own mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical wellbeing.
When you're financially stressed, self-care might be the last thing on your mind. However, it’s important to prioritise self-care because it can help reduce stress and anxiety and make it easier for you to cope. It can also help you be in a better emotional space to make financial decisions.
Some examples of self-care include eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, socialising, engaging in hobbies, and taking time to relax.
Constantly worrying about money can lead to mental health conditions like anxiety.
For ways to manage overwhelming feelings, you can try these evidence-based strategies to minimise or reduce the impact of anxiety on your life.
Tips to improve your finances
When you’re experiencing financial stress, it can seem hard to regain financial stability in the long-term. Here are some tips that can help you help you manage your finances better and improve your financial situation:
As a first step, you can contact the Australian Taxation Office (ATO) or your local bank and request to speak with financial counsellors free of charge. Financial counsellors work with people in financial crisis all the time and understand what you’re going through. They can give you advice about your financial situation.
Alternatively, you can explore free support services like National Debt Helpline and Mob Strong Debt Help. Both offer offer free, independent and confidential counselling to help you get your finances back under control.
They can also put you in touch with other services you require, such as legal services, crisis food and accommodation services, and health services. Click here to learn more about support services that can help with financial stress.
Financial experts suggest that, if you’re able to, you should try to save some of your income each month. However, depending on how much you earn and what your expenses are, you might not be able to save as much as you want, and that’s okay. Even saving a small amount of money each month can help you create a more stable financial future. If you have a hard time being disciplined when it comes to saving money, you can set up a recurring transfer to your savings account. This way, a portion of your income goes straight into your savings account at the beginning of each month before you can even think about spending it.
Sometimes people overspend or spend impulsively as a way to cope with emotional pain or to fill an emotional void.
Below are some signs that you might do this:
- You shop to relieve stress and then feel bad about it later
- You justify overspending by telling yourself you deserve it
- You spend more money than you plan to, even though you’re in a difficult place financially
- You spend more money than you should because you’re trying to impress others.
If you have a problem with overspending and impulse-buying, you can set a personal rule to stop yourself from buying things that you don’t need and can’t afford.
When you want to buy something non-essential, tell yourself you’ll wait a week before buying it. During this waiting period, you’ll probably find that your urge diminishes, and you can avoid spending money unnecessarily.
If you’re not sure what triggers your impulsive spending habits, then it will be hard to stop them.
One way to identify your triggers is to keep a journal so that you can monitor what happens when you get the urge to impulse-buy. Whenever you feel the urge to spend money, record your thoughts and emotions, as well as anything that led up to the urge. After doing this for a week or so, review your journal entries and see if you can spot any patterns. For example, you might realise that you impulse-buy when you’re feeling sad or lonely.
If you find yourself often buying things you don’t necessarily need, you can set a limit on how much money you want to spend each month on non-essential items. You can do this by withdrawing the exact amount of money you want to spend that month on non-essentials to prevent yourself from overspending. Another option is transferring the money to a card you use only for non-essential purchases.
Tools and apps to help you manage financial stress
Below is a curated list of some tools and apps you can use to help manage stress and get back on track with your finances.
Connect with support services to get help
Below, you’ll find support services that offer information, counselling, and referrals to local services in your area.
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Understanding financial stress and how you can help
If someone you care about is going through financial problems, you might not know how to help. Simply being there for your loved one is the best type of support you can give them.
On this page, you’ll find practical steps you can take to support someone going through financial difficulties.
How can you recognise if someone is experiencing financial stress?
There are some things that people might say or do that suggest they might be experiencing financial stress.
For example:
- They often talk about their money struggles and debt
- They seem worried and distressed when they talk about money
- They’ve said that they don’t know how they’re going to cover their expenses
- They’ve asked you or others for money
- They’ve sold their personal belongings to help make ends meet
- They avoid socialising and leisure activities because they don’t have money
- They’ve been unable to pay back their bills, or they keep paying their bills late
- They’ve expressed feeling hopeless or helpless about their financial situation
- They’ve been taking things that don’t belong to them.
These are some of the signs you might notice, but not everyone who goes through financial stress will show it.
If you suspect that a loved one is financially stressed but they haven’t opened up about it, they might show these physical signs of stress:
- Headaches
- Muscle tension and pain
- Digestive problems, like stomach aches and irritable bowel syndrome
- Sleep issues
- Mood changes.
Whether the signs are clear or subtle, you can start a conversation with your loved one. They might not be ready to have a conversation or might not want to talk about their problems. If this happens, respect their decision and let them know you’re here for them if they need help.
Often, one of the most powerful things you can do for a friend or family member is to let them know that you’re there for them. However, knowing how and when to do this can be tricky.
Here are a few tips:
- Try to create time for the conversation. This might mean suggesting a walk or other activity that gives you the time to talk, without distractions.
- Gently let them know that you care about them, and want to help.
- Listen and be curious about their experience. Give them space to share if they choose to. You can ask open questions such as ‘how are you feeling?’ or ‘what’s going on for you at the moment?’
- Sometimes, it can help to open up about your own experiences, which can ‘give permission’ to your friend or family member to also share. Being vulnerable can be hard, but it’s easier if you’re both in the same boat.
- Rather than jumping to solutions, it can be helpful to ask what they need from you at that moment. You might ask something like ‘would you like me to just listen right now, or would you like help thinking about what you might do from here?'
- Try to resist the urge to paint a silver lining or minimise their concerns. Instead, it can be helpful to validate their experience by saying things like ‘it sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now’ or ‘that must be so difficult for you.’
- It can be really hard for people to open up, especially the first time, so don’t be disheartened or hurt if your friend or family member doesn’t want to talk about it.
- You might like to gently let them know that you’re still there if they change their mind, or if there’s something you can do in the future.
If your loved one is receptive to getting help from you, you can brainstorm some solutions with them.
Here are a few ideas to get the ball rolling:
- Budgeting. If you’ve used budgeting yourself, or you understand how it works, then you can help your loved one come up with their own budget. Often having a second set of eyes can be helpful as it can provide another perspective and way of thinking. You can find lots of free budgeting templates online
- Cost cutting. You can encourage your loved one to use our tips for saving money
- Financial benefits. You can help them understand what community and government support options are available to them.
- Offer to go with them to financial counselling. You can go with them to financial counselling or speak with their bank. The National Debt Hotline is a handy contact for you to share with them.
- Extra income. You can give them suggestions for increasing their income temporarily by checking out our practical solutions for coping with financial stress.
- Provide practical support. You can provide practical support to your loved one by offering them help with errands or other activities. This might give them more time to take extra shifts at work, earn additional income from a side gig, or at least help them to be less stressed about other things in life on top of their financial situation.
Make sure to spend time with them and do fun, social things they enjoy so they can have some time out from financial stress and thinking about it. It might be spending time together watching a show, inviting them over for dinner, going for a walk, or spending time at the beach.
It’s important to know what your limits are and to be able to communicate these to your friend or family member, especially if they ask you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing, such as lending them money. Make sure to communicate your limits on:
- The practical things you have time and energy to help with
- When and where you’re able to help, chat, or support
- Prioritising your needs or the needs of other people you support as well.
Having someone you can talk to about your experience can help you feel more supported and lighten the load you’re carrying. It can also help to feel more connected to others, and you might even pick up some tips from other people in similar situations. You might want to think about what is appropriate to share about the person you’re supporting or to just stick to how it’s impacting you.
Practice self-care
Being kind to yourself while caring for others is really important. You might feel frustrated, stretched, or even powerless, but adding shame or guilt to those emotions by criticising yourself will only make you feel worse.
It’s ok to reduce the expectations you’ve set for yourself and to prioritise your self-care.
Research shows our diet can have a big effect on how we feel. Eating well doesn’t just make us physically healthier, but it can also help with our sleep, energy levels, and mood.
Our brains and bodies are linked, and exercise releases chemicals that boost our mood, including endorphins and dopamine.
You don’t have to engage in vigorous movement to feel the benefits of exercising. Gentle exercise like walking or yoga creates the same mental health benefits that running or a high-intensity workout does.
You might also like to combine the benefits of exercising with social connection by playing a team sport or simply going for a walk with friends.
It can be easy to reach for substances when you’re feeling low to make us feel better, or escape those feelings in the short term. But drugs and alcohol can be really harmful, especially when we’re already in a challenging mental state. Substances that alter our thought patterns can really amplify any feelings of distress.
Sleeping well is a really important part of mental health, but taking on too much as a carer can make healthy sleep patterns feel impossible.
Developing good sleep habits can help find the right balance.
These can include:
- Switching off your screens before bed
- Avoiding alcohol and caffeine before bed
- If you can’t sleep, get up and do something calming until you feel sleepy
- Trying to avoid napping during the day
- Keeping the bedroom for just sleep and sex.
- You might find that engaging in regular exercise, eating a balanced diet and regular use of self-care tools like meditation can make sleeping easier.
Research shows that being in nature can improve our mood. Connecting with the outside world is also a great way to reduce stress and our worries by reconnecting with the world around you.
Creating a regular routine can work wonders. Sticking to a routine can:
- Promote healthy habits
- Combat or prevent burnout
- Relieve anxiety
- Boost motivation levels
- Make us feel a sense of accomplishment.
Doing things that bring you joy is important for good mental health. It can help stop looping or painful thoughts, find a sense of achievement and increase positive emotions.
Hobbies are also a great way to form and strengthen social connection, and they can help you to develop routine and structure. You might also like to learn or try something new.